Teaching yourself how to be able to relax, accept, distract, and self-sooth. It is a huge undertaking, but you can do it. We do not graduate primary school in one sitting. We do not learn division in one day—we begin by learning what numbers actually are. Learning how to rest, accept situations, distract ourselves, and/or sooth ourselves is no different. Little, tiny steps and practice is required. Just keep practicing until it becomes second nature.